Some United Methodists grapple with grief as congregations vote to disaffiliate. Spiritual directors offer tips for grieving well that may move us to a hopeful time for the church.
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These five steps will aid both clergy and lay leaders who are helping their congregation heal during seasons of pain, grief and division.
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Below are some suggested resources to help congregations and individuals heal and look ahead with hope to a brighter future in The UMC.
Take time to grieve and reconcile
Whether you’re a committed United Methodist who lost their church or a faithful UM congregation that has lost some of its members, it’s important to acknowledge the pain and trauma you’re experiencing. Take adequate time to grieve for what has been lost. For congregations where a disaffiliation vote was narrowly defeated, it’s important to promote reconciliation between congregants who voted differently.
- Disaffiliation: Grieving through transition
- Faith in grief, anxiety, fear
- Grief and compassion for such a time as this
- Courageous Conversations
- Healing Forward Workbook
- What to do when people leave your church
Reaffirm United Methodist identity
One way to heal during these divisive times is to lean in more on our Methodist roots. Celebrate things that make you proud to #BeUMC and tap into timeless Wesleyan traditions. Here are few resources to help inspire you.
- BeUMC Campaign resources
- We are the church. Together video
- Five steps for congregational healing
- Amplify Your Commitment to #BeUMC with FREE resources from Amplify Media
- Beginning Again: A guide for remaining United Methodist
- Resources for clarifying our beliefs and truths
Connect with other United Methodists
Remember that you are not alone during this difficult time. Now is the time to draw strength from connectional system. Many annual conferences are establishing lighthouse congregations to welcome committed United Methodists who have lost their former church. Others are using technology to facilitate church fellowship remotely. You may also be inspired by stories of hope from other congregations across the connection.
- Becoming a lighthouse congregation
- Creating digital spaces for committed United Methodists
- Let’s step forward. Together.
- Stories of Hope
Look to the future
It can be hard to see the light at the end of the tunnel. We need to remember that this season of division will pass and The United Methodist Church will endure. Look to see what new things God is bringing forth in The UMC even in the midst of disaffiliation. Envision the new possibilities for ministry in your congregation or local area.